Woman Asks Internet For Advice After Finding Out Her Hubby Has Fathered 47 Children

The anonymous woman’s conundrum has divided the internet

The whole idea of marriage is that you share everything together – past, present, and future. Still, even the strongest marriages are put to the test when a spicy secret come to light. That is exactly the case for one woman on the Internet, whose husband was upfront with her about having donated sperm in the past, but didn’t tell her how many times he donated.

It turns out to be… well, a lot, and wow that she’s learned he has 47 children via his donations, she’s freaked out and is so upset she wants a divorce.

As the woman explained in a post on Reddit, she was stunned when she learned how many children her husband has from donating his sperm over the years. The anonymous woman explained that, although she knew her husband donated sperm before they got married, she assumed it was only a couple of times, and she was okay with it – not that there’s anything she could’ve done if she wasn’t!

The problem was that her husband hadn’t just donated once or twice; instead, she was flabbergasted to learn he had 47 children from his donations, which was much, much more than she ever could have guessed.

“It’s clearly my fault for not asking how many. At the time, I literally said I ‘didn’t care’ about his sperm donation and ‘didn’t want to know,’ so I can’t blame him for not telling me how many,” she wrote. “But 47?! Christ!!!!”

So, what’s her problem, exactly? Well, in a subsequent update, she added that all 47 of his kids would be allowed to contact him once they turned 18, which might “cause problems” when they get older.

This is certainly true. Come to think of it, hasn’t there already been a goofy Hollywood comedy movie based on this exact premise? I’m sure there has, but the name escapes me…

Anyway, the woman is not just a little upset, but is actually considering divorcing her husband. However, she worries that she may be wrong for feeling that way – after all, her hubby was upfront about it, and she said that she didn’t want to know any details.

She was asking Reddit for advice, and it’s fair to say the reaction was split. Some people thought that the writer was in no position to be angry.

One forum user thought that the real issue was elsewhere, saying “You knew in advance, specifically asked not to know how many and have been married for years. What’s the real reason you want a divorce?”

“You asked him and he told you,” another person agreed. “If numbers were important to you then you should have asked earlier.”

And someone else was confused why the mom was so worried about having “problems” in the future. “He didn’t personally impregnate 47 women, women/couples who wanted a child but sadly couldn’t conceive for whatever reason are now able to raise a child because of him,” the person wrote. “What kind of problems will this cause? I think something else is going on. Don’t ruin your daughter’s life over this OP. Talk to a therapist or marriage counselor first.”

I think this is pretty well-rounded advice, but others thought her husband should have been a little bit more upfront about how often he donated.

One person thought this was a problem, but one that the woman and her husband could work through. “He could have been clearer with you, longer ago, about how many kids he could potentially end up fathering and what any potential long-term outcomes could be,” the person commented.

“Seems like he played it down. Now, confronted by reality, your first instinct is to freak out and run rather than figure out how to manage the situation. Getting into counseling with him may be a good idea, so you can both work through your fears and concerns with your daughter’s well-being at the forefront.”

Someone else empathized with the woman’s freak-out. “All the people saying there is no way this will effect her are delusional,” the person wrote. “Maybe it won’t, but OP should at least consult a lawyer to make sure these kids can’t make any legitimate claim to their money. Sure, divorcing over this alone is a stretch. Calm down, and get the facts first.”

I hadn’t even considered any financial implications, to be fair.

In the end, the woman wrote that she’s an emotional person and is just having a hard time dealing with her feelings.

Later in the thread she wrote that she didn’t mind her husband’s donation when she thought he had only done it once or twice, “but dozens of kids… It just seems so weird to me? I know this feeling is wrong of me. I guess I just needed people to tell me I’m being a selfish idiot so that I can get over it,” she wrote.

She further explained that she panicked because she’s “an overly emotional person that has trouble dealing with issues.”

What do you make of the pickle that this woman is in, folks? Let us know your thoughts in the comments. AAx

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